tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20408693.post1624897860225716839..comments2023-10-02T06:24:22.884-04:00Comments on Hot, Black and Bitter: Successful Black Women and Marriage. Is it possible?Miss Moxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08725645230788959179noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20408693.post-72264868749220503822010-04-26T20:05:20.537-04:002010-04-26T20:05:20.537-04:00Hey everyone! Thanks so much for your input. You r...Hey everyone! Thanks so much for your input. You rock!! :)Miss Moxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08725645230788959179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20408693.post-81303486073596856822010-04-23T17:19:31.200-04:002010-04-23T17:19:31.200-04:00On a personal level (since I know you), I'm 10...On a personal level (since I know you), I'm 100% with you. And, for the most part, in general, I agree. But, I've noticed, in my own personal relationship experiences with black women, that some are argumentative for no reason, some tend to bring emotional baggage into relationships (from the manchild that did them wrong), and some hold men to standards that they don't uphold to; for example, I remember dating a woman who wouldn't date a man with children, but she had a son! Wow! I'm not necessary ignoring issues that men (particularly black men) have, but there's issues on both sides.<br />Overall though, I feel that black women generally get a bad rap and are often misunderstood (I mostly blame TV and hip-hop, personally). Also from my personal experiences, I've found black women to be incredibly loyal, diligent, durable, and willing/able to endure through hardship. But, these are my quick thoughts on your blog.Jon Danielshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17279820904074825633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20408693.post-17124504780382252162010-04-22T20:15:57.114-04:002010-04-22T20:15:57.114-04:00Well said, Jovonna. You know, I'll be turning...Well said, Jovonna. You know, I'll be turning 29 in July and I think about this question alot. Sometimes I think my location isn't optimal... Hershey, PA. Not alot of diversity, but again, my husband does not have to be black... I'm soooo past that! However, I think that location has alot to do with people's perception of me. My mind may be open, but others' may not be.<br /><br />I had a conversation with some of my male co-workers and I realized they had a certain fear of me. I'm not guessing this... they told me. It promted me to think about the reason for this fear. Is it because I'm assertive? Is it because I don't back down? I'm a surgeon, damn it! What do you want me to do? I'm always open to discuss why this fear exists, but I'll be honest... if a man isn't confident enough to go toe to toe with me, I don't want him as a spouse. I don't feel it is fair to either person for one to tip toe around the other for the sake of their confidence (or lack thereof) or comfort. Each person has to be comfortable with the others' strengths and weaknesses. I'm not a bully... anyone who knows me knows that I'm not. I may get loud, but I'm probably just telling an over-the-top story. <br /><br />To me, a person that is meant to be your mate would understand those idiosyncracies, adore and cherish them, because that's what makes you... you!<br />-JuliaJulianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20408693.post-44100432912213795782010-04-22T12:58:11.639-04:002010-04-22T12:58:11.639-04:00Yes, you can be successful and married. It's ...Yes, you can be successful and married. It's all about what you are willing to put up with. <br /><br />As women, we don't have to settle. It is time to be more realistic? Maybe. Would you rather have a man making six figures or five figures with ambition? Is it more important to a man with good core values or who is good in bed? <br /><br />Unfortunately, men don't always come in pretty packages. We have the power to help shape their development. Sometimes, all a brother needs is that successful woman to give them that little push.<br /><br />That's just my two cents.....Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05011798371519957504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20408693.post-38376097923650251372010-04-22T11:21:36.673-04:002010-04-22T11:21:36.673-04:00Absolutely. :)Absolutely. :)Miss Moxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08725645230788959179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20408693.post-40993278099943700712010-04-22T11:16:43.549-04:002010-04-22T11:16:43.549-04:00...good points! Can I re-post to my FB?? Only w/yo......good points! Can I re-post to my FB?? Only w/your permission, of course....Stephanie Morris-Graveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08382187407819574760noreply@blogger.com