Saturday, March 05, 2011

Who Wears the Pants?

Everyday I scroll through at least one twitter timeline... I have personal ones and business ones, and a couple that I handle for other people. People really open up on Twitter. It wouldn't be your first thought but there is a stream of consciousness that flows through those 140 character messages. More and more, I see messages about what someone wants in a mate. There are people who just want a whore-- honestly. They don't type about forever, they type about right now and nothing else. You have some who type about romanticized love, like the kinds you see in movies; self deprecating humor about love lost, long loves, marriages and changes in love. In 15 minutes you could see the entire gamut of a relationship through the eyes of about 100 different people.
It is kind of endearing. You can go through a break up and be encouraged, or air your dirty laundry and be slapped down by the twitterverse. With the good comes the bad-- and today, I saw the bad. So there is this guy who is posting all this stuff he wants in a female companion. Some of it is tongue in cheek- clearly. But some of it is downright ridiculous. I understand that a lot is at stake in choose a mate. Some people (me included) only want to take the plunge once so, I get it that you are taking your time and being very specific... HOWEVER, you will not send me a direct message saying that if we got together YOU would be head of the household and I would have to learn how to follow... WOW!? Dude, what?! You know, like I know, that you will get a mouthful.
You are trying to spit your little game to all the girls on Twitter. God fearing, Bible thumper... and some of them *might* fall for that. But as for me- not so much. Man- listen here: I follow NO man, except my daddy... because he ALWAYS comes through. When I need it, that man will break his back to get it-- and he is not doing it for some dishonest motive. I am not following you for one specific reason-- I don't know where you are going. So, if your game is to get all the little girls to think that they are following the Bible to follow your crazy ass into a ditch... go for it, but don't think that I am going to take that bait. SMH
Here is my problem: there are too many men (NOT all, just too many) that have mixed priorities. Some of y'all are just too concerned with being a "baller", succeeding in business (to the detriment of everything else) or impressing other people to be effective leaders at home. How can you lead me, if you are trying to keep up with the Joneses? How can you lead me if you are still in your infancy? How can you lead me if you are so concerned with the office that you can't see what is happening at home? Finally, how can you lead me if you are unhappy? So we both have to be work centered, unhappy infants trying to keep up with the Joneses? I think not. Let's get this right: I have no problem letting a man lead. The RIGHT man. A responsible man, who thinks of me as his partner in life. A well balanced man that knows that work has its place, and that we don't have to swim in debt just because the Joneses are. A compassionate man who understands that while the Bible says that women should submit to their husbands (Ephesians 5:22), it also says that men should love their wives, like Christ loved the Church (Ephesians 5:25); love her as he loves himself (Ephesians 5: 28-30). See, Mr. Fake Preacher, I know Bible verses too, so let's just do each other a favor and not go there. Use those self serving tricks on someone else. Shame on you and you better be happy you didn't get cussed out.
If I have to keep dealing with crazies, there will be no question as to why my bitter ass isn't married! LOL


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